This is a public service announcement for golf league members everywhere. Some of you are the problem. You don't know you're the problem. This article is for you.
It is also for every commissioner who has ever stared at their phone on a Tuesday night, watching the RSVP count sit at 9 of 16, wondering how they ended up volunteering for this. You are seen. You are appreciated. Keep reading.
The following signs are listed in order of escalating concern. If your league exhibits three or more, begin identifying a successor immediately.
They've stopped putting the tee time in the subject line
You get the event email. The date's in there somewhere. Maybe. The time is in paragraph three, buried between a note about parking and a reminder that Venmo is preferred. The commissioner has decided that if you can't find the information, you probably weren't that committed to showing up anyway. They are beginning to curate.
The group chat reply time went from minutes to days
There was a time — you remember it fondly — when you asked a question and got an answer within 20 minutes. Funny, helpful, sometimes a voice memo. Now it's 48 hours and the message says "Noted." No context. No punctuation. Just "Noted." as a complete response to your question about whether scramble or best ball this month. The period is doing a lot of work. The period is load-bearing.
The RSVP deadline got moved up to two weeks before the outing
"Just to give me more time to plan," they said. Sure. The real reason is they need the extra week to emotionally prepare for the guy who is going to RSVP Out at 6:58am on Saturday morning — 12 minutes before tee time — with the message "Something came up." Something always comes up. The commissioner has decided they would like to process this grief in advance.
They've added a $3 "administrative fee" to the buy-in
It's not explained. There's no line item. The buy-in email just says $43 instead of $40 this month. When someone asked about it in the group chat, they got the Noted response. The $3 is not about the money. The $3 is a statement. The $3 is the commissioner putting a price tag on what it costs to coordinate 15 adults who have the calendar awareness of golden retrievers.
The pairings have become suspiciously punitive
The two guys who complain most about everything — the pace of play, the scoring format, the choice of course, the way the commissioner divides the skins pot — are now paired together. Every month. For four months running. The commissioner calls it "balanced groups." They cite handicap differentials. They have prepared a brief. Everyone knows exactly what's happening. Nobody says anything, because everyone is relieved it isn't them.
They've started forwarding all group chat questions to themselves and not responding
Technically, they acknowledged the message. You can see the "Forwarded" indicator. The message went somewhere. To whom, or to what end, remains unclear. It has been suggested that the commissioner has set up an email folder called "Pending" where these questions live indefinitely, unread, in a kind of administrative limbo. Technically, the process has been followed. Technically.
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See How It Works →The post-outing summary email now just says "good game"
There was a time — a golden age, really — when the post-outing email was a small masterpiece. Scores. Payout breakdown. Photos from the 12th hole. A brief narrative recap that included the moment Gary hit into the water three times in a row and maintained complete composure. It was good. It was a thing people looked forward to. Now: "good game." Two words. Sent at 11:58pm. From a parking lot. The era of the recap has ended.
They've quietly added themselves to every winning pairing
This one is hard to prove. The commissioner would point out that they've simply been playing well lately, that the handicap system is working as intended, and that four wins in the last six outings is within normal statistical variance. The commissioner would be incorrect, but confident. The commissioner grades their own homework now, and the homework has been coming back with very good marks.
They've started referring to the league in the third person
"The league has determined that tee time disputes must be submitted in writing." "Per league policy, late RSVPs are no longer eligible for prize pool participation." "The league thanks you for your continued participation." No human being named anything is mentioned anywhere in these communications. It is a sovereign organization now. It has bylaws. It has institutional memory. The commissioner is merely its vessel.
The welcome email to new members now includes a liability waiver
Not for golf-related injuries. Not for anything that happens on the course. Specifically for "group chat participation and financial disputes arising from prize pool distribution." One new member replied asking if this was a joke. He received the Noted response. He has since adjusted his expectations accordingly and is generally thriving.
They've started interviewing replacements
Very casually. "Just asking questions." Mike's name came up in a conversation that had nothing to do with the league, and the commissioner made a note. Mike seems organized. Mike RSVPs on time. Mike has never disputed a payout, asked for a format change mid-season, or sent a message in the group chat at 11pm the night before an outing asking "what time are we teeing off again." Mike doesn't know yet. Mike will find out.
If you've read this far and recognized yourself in the members described above: good. That's the first step. Consider RSVPing on time this month. Consider Venmoing the buy-in without being asked twice. Consider, just once, not having an opinion about the format.
Commissioners do a genuinely thankless job. Every outing you've enjoyed, every round that started on time, every payout that was distributed fairly — that was someone's Wednesday night. Buy them a drink. Help them find a better system. And for the love of the game, respond to the group chat.